I am looking for a poem that speaks to getting over a failed love and growing up emotionally.
I think there is a line to the effect:
I will tend my own garden...
promises are not forever
this one ?
Want to make life easier on yourself?
Forget the expectations for other people.
Concentrate on something and someone you can control.
Concentrate on yourself.
It is when we allow ourselves the privilege
Of having expectations for other people
That we run into trouble.
Because other people do not always follow our agenda.
Other people seem to have their own agendas.
Can you imagine that?
They actually want to live their own lives
Think their own thoughts
Dream their own dreams
Chase their own goals
And form their own opinions.
Each of us has one life in this world.
We do not own each other's lives.
We can not claim another's dreams.
We can not jump into another's body or mind.
So why do we try to control other people?
And why do we have expectations for them?
It is through these high expectations that we struggle.
It is through expectations for other people,
That we eventually arrive at disappointment's door.
We never would have to stand at the door of disappointment,
Had we not boarded the train called "Expectations!"
ALL ABOARD FOR TRAIN EXPECTATION......
Tend to your own garden.
You will find plenty of weeds there to pull.
Let my garden grow as it will.
It is my plot of land.
I will try not to interfer in your life.
If you try not to interfer in mine.
There is a difference between admiring another's garden,
And crossing the fence and walking up and down the rows.
There is a difference between observing another's garden,
And crossing the fence and taking the bounty home with you!
It is not yours to take.
It is mine.
I will learn to tend my own garden,
To keep my expectations directed toward myself,
To allow you to experience your own life,
At your own pace, in your own time.
Will you allow me the same courtesy?
Thank you, although that is not the one I am looking for, it is a very good message. The one I am thinking of is more about developing your own happiness from within, rather than having your happiness depend on the love of another person. (I am looking to comfort a sweet 16 year old who is getting over a broken heart)
Is this the one?
After awhile you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises.
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of a woman or man
Not with the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
And after awhile you learn
That even sunshine burns if you ask too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate you own soul
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn
That you really can endure
That you really are strong
That you really do have worth.
And you learn…
And you learn…
With every failure
Yes!!! That is the one I'm looking for. Thank you so much, it is perfect for the person I want to give it to. Do you know the author or title? I am new to this site and love it!
The title is Comes the Dawn by Kara DiGiovanna.
Nice catch, ladies!
I don't know, im probably wrong, but I looked up quite a few sites and they all seem to think its called "After awhile" by Veronica A. Shoffstall, but then I also found a site that said it was by Kara DiGiovanna, so i'm not really sure...
Now I'm not sure either. I've had it in my folder for a while as Comes the Dawn by DiGiovanna, but after looking at Ms. Shoffstall's sites, I think she is probably the author. I found that After Awhile is sometimes called Comes the Dawn (by someone other than me) : ) She has been published in several books, and I didn't find much on the mysterious Ms. Digiovanna. Thanks, Kel.