I'm looking for the Tennyson poem "In Memorium" from 1850. So far, I've been able to get phrases but not the entire poem. Anyone have a lead? or the poem?
I think it's here, it's much too long, seems like a few kilometers long to me, so just read it here at the original website -
In memoriam (note the spelling) is not ONE poem, but loads of them. He wrote them after the death of his best friend Arthur Hallam, when they were both students. Hallam was with his father abroad when he died, and his body was brought back by boat, which you can find reference to in some of the poems.
for all of them see:
here is one of them:
Dark house, by which once more I stand
Here in the long unlovely street,
Doors, where my heart was used to beat
So quickly, waiting for a hand,
A hand that can be clasp'd no more --
Behold me, for I cannot sleep,
And like a guilty thing I creep
At earliest morning to the door.
He is not here; but far away
The noise of life begins again,
And ghastly thro' the drizzling rain
On the bald street breaks the blank day.
The Toronto site has all 133 as well, with (some) footnotes and selected favorites:
Could Arthur have been more to Alfred than just a friend? Hmmm ...
Thanks! You're right-eighty pages on Word-had no idea it was so long, no wonder I couldn't find it with others. Whew!
Could be...could be....
I did a shallow search for information about the Tennyson-Hallam relationship. Everyone who writes (briefly, on-line) about it says that it was "probably not sexual" or "there is no evidence of a homosexual relationship." At the same time, people writing (briefly, on-line) about homosexual artists in love like to cite Tennyson-Hallam as examples.
There's another thread on this forum about how, in other periods of history, there weren't the same disctinctions between GAY and STRAIGHT, and how it was possible to live a heterosexual life and also have a male lover - e.g., Shakespeare. No need to repeat it here.
Isn't it also correct to assume that in other periods of history the close companionship between men was not put to the same homophobic tests of today? As an example, how about the latest biographies on Abe Lincoln?
Yep, here's Lincoln's gay poem. Next thing you know, they'll be saying Walt Whitman was
"I will tell you a Joke about Jewel and Mary
It is neither a Joke nor a Story
For Rubin and Charles has married two girls
But Billy has married a boy
The girlies he had tried on every Side
But none could he get to agree
All was in vain he went home again
And since that is married to Natty
So Billy and Natty agreed very well
And mama?s well pleased at the match
The egg it is laid but Natty?s afraid
The Shell is So Soft that it never will hatch
But Betsy she said you Cursed bald head
My Suitor you never Can be
Beside your low crotch proclaims you a botch
And that never Can serve for me
further proof from SLATE:
That is funny and instructive reading.
"There's another thread on this forum about how, in other periods of history, there weren't the same disctinctions between GAY and STRAIGHT, and how it was possible to live a heterosexual life and also have a male lover - e.g., Shakespeare."
did I mention the attitude of some modern greeks? "I'm not a homo. Bah." "But you sleep with men!" "Yeah, so? That doesn't make me a homo!"
I like that one!
According to my Greek friend at work, there is a distinction (and separate words) for thos who give and those who take, and those who give don't consider themselves "gay"
wow. I didn't get that deep into the conversation. Will check it out with my greek teacher.
I guess it matters whether one is the fellatee, or the irrumatior? We can save blumpkin for a later, uh, gamahuche.
the answer from my greek teacher:
(greek encoding required to read this properly)
"about your greek question: yes, only the receiving
partner is seen as gay. all words for gay/homosexuell
are valid for him: poustis
πούστης = no
translation, a term used as well for everybody who is
not straight with you, has a bad character; sikia
συκιά = fig tree; aderfi
the other partner is seen as absolutely normal, since
he likes fucking whatever. in general sombody who
ass (kolos) is a kolobaras.
this has to do with identity, not with what happens in
reality!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you get a kolobaras in
the right moment you can ** the hell out of him
a lot of people, including gays who have problems with
their sexuality, still believe in this concept. but
there is as well a growing number of poeple, mostly
younger, who know that both partners in reality are
involved in either positions, depending on different
factors: whom they are having sex with, own current
age, current set of ages in the specific situation
Apparently, there are similar beliefs in American prisons- You're not gay if you have sex with men only when women aren't available.
Gamahuche ! Good Gosh ! I haven't seen that since reading The Pearl !
You're not gay if you have sex with men only when women aren't available.
Yeah, right. And guys on the 'down low' ain't gay neither. Personally, I can't see me ever springing a woody from looking at a guy's hairy butt. Losing one, sure.
Whatever about Lincoln, rumour is that President Bush is gay. What's going on?
I recently read Before Night Falls, the autobiography of Cuban writer
Reinaldo Arenas. He says ‘in Cuba you don’t have to be a homosexual to
have a relationship with a man; men can have intercourse with other men as an ordinary act.’
He then says that the down side of his escape from Cuba and exile in New York was the different social perception that categorized all ‘queers’
together (his words, not mine) which makes it very difficult for a
homosexual to find a real man. Interesting.
She hid the bananas
where Curious George can't find them